I am, by multiple different quantifiable metrics, what I presume this question to mean as “intelligent.”
My friends and family love to point out, seemingly ad nauseum, that this does not mean I am immune from stupidity. Usually they phrase this as:
“You’re so smart, I don’t know how you X” (accompanied by an exasperated tone of voice).
Why does this matter in a question about dating? Well, because dating has nothing at all to do with intelligence.
It is emotional, physiological and psychological. When people sit down and plan out the “perfect partner”, they tend to miss the thing that matters – what *attracts* them?
My first “date” was somewhere around 13, and I have been a serial monogamist for the nearly 30 years since. Rather than putting off dating, I wanted to experiment with the different combinations of personality types to find out what worked to make me a better me, and the other person a better them.
Some of those guys were amazing.
Some were terrible for me, but I loved them anyway – hence the friends and family members chiming in.
Some were wrong, and we both knew it.
I happened to find my husband after 10 years of that and have been very happily married since.
10 years of trial and error – imagine if I’d waited until later in life to even just start! That would be horrible.
Originally Posted: https://www.quora.com/Do-intelligent-people-tend-to-hold-off-dating-until-later-in-their-lives
Originally Posted On: 2015-12-31