If you feel that the relationship is solid enough and that you trust each other enough to move in together, then there’s obviously a strong foundation there.
As humans, we are naturally curious. If there is a puzzle, we want to figure it out. If we are told to not do something, that’s all we will be fixated on.
Your partner asked you to leave his past in his past. For whatever reason, he does not want to share that with you. It can be because it is too painful for him to think about, or because he is afraid you might think of him differently because of it, or for myriad other reasons that only he knows.
In order to respect the relationship you have and he trust he has placed in you, what I would do is ask, “What does our future look like?”
Bring yourselves out of this place of pain and worry, and focus on the life you are building together.
Your past selves brought you to each other. That is all that matters for the moment, and he will tell you more if/when he is ready.
Originally Posted: https://www.quora.com/Should-I-continue-with-my-boyfriend
Originally Posted On: 2015-12-07