I think it is MUCH more important for a parent to understand where their children’s (boy or girl) real strengths are, and support them there, rather than trying to force them to be something they aren’t.
Realistically, not many people have any “real” friends until they are much older in life. If they did, more people would be friends as adults with the people they went to elementary school with. I don’t see that as a problem.
Not everyone is good at math. So what? I couldn’t draw a straight line if my life depended on it. Or play the clarinet. Or tell you what color puce was without a color swatch.
Everyone is different, and that’s ok. If we were all good at the same things the world would be a really dull place.
If she likes reading the dictionary, maybe she has a thing for languages. Or, paired with her shopping hobby, perhaps it’s actually a skill in trendspotting. Knowing how certain words changed in meaning over time and in different locations, how certain dialects were formed – that’s similar to how fashion evolves over time.
And if she exercises, that shows that she cares about herself in a whole-self way.
Support and encourage the person she is, not your idealized version of her.
Originally Posted: https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-help-my-daughter-find-a-career
Originally Posted On: 2015-02-02