I’m going to let you in on something that may change your life.
It’s something that everyone (and I don’t say everyone lightly) knows deep down, but rarely do they figure this out – and if they do, would they care to admit it.
The only opinion that matters to you is your own.
What I mean by this is that you can have thousands of people come up and tell you one thing, but unless you already believe a thing internally, you aren’t really going to believe it.
There are different ways you can be influenced externally that something is true – visual evidence, written evidence or “acting it out” yourself, however all that does is change your own personal opinion.
Once that happens, whatever someone else says that is in line with your own thoughts, you will agree with.
So, as you’ve already stated that your personal opinion is that you do not feel attractive, but do look at least somewhat conventionally so, what I would ask is –
What would attractive feel like to you?
How would you know that you are attractive?
What would your life be like if you felt that way?
As you are the only one that has the power to convince yourself, think about those questions and that will give you a measure to work toward.
Originally Posted: https://www.quora.com/I-dont-know-how-to-deal-with-not-feeling-attractive-I-fit-some-of-the-conventional-standards-but-feel-like-Im-still-lacking-in-other-areas-How-can-I-cope-with-this
Originally Posted On: 2015-11-06