I find this question almost as amusing as the fact that I was asked to answer it.
Well, here goes:
I am extremely socially awkward. I was pretty much “raised by wolves”, so I have almost no base understanding of what is acceptable in polite society to say or not to say, to do or not to do. I “ve had to figure these things out mostly on my own through reading, observation, and the occasional other person correcting me. As such, I can be incredibly frustrating to deal with in scenarios that other people consider “common sense” but I just never learned.
I am extremely empathetic, and constantly seeing multiple perspectives. So much that I can “t shut it off. This is also something that can be intolerable to someone close to me if they just want me to see their side and only their side, when I just keep on coming up with other alternatives. Ad nauseum. Forever and ever and ever. I just don “t stop.
And there “s that. I keep coming up with more options, for everything. I don “t give up on anything. Even when you ask me to drop things, my mind is constantly working on ways to fix, to create, to build, to enhance… its on 24/7.
I “ve also been told I don “t answer questions directly and this is “maddening.” As in, when someone asks me a question, I don “t give a Yes or No answer (unless it is actually a true Binary scenario, which is rarely presented to me), but instead will give them examples, proof, diagrams, etc to provide them the full context in which they may come to the conclusion to decide whether it is more Positive or a Negative. This goes back to my seeing multiple perspectives, giving options, providing alternatives…
And with all that, you “d think I “m someone who talks incessantly. I “m not. I speak infrequently, preferring quiet and contemplative research. I actually get frequently confronted about the irony of my ability to speak on stage to crowds and command teams effectively and yet in private I “m relatively quiet and unassuming, often working in the dark without even noticing my surroundings.
I shun makeup and accessories, and prefer fashion that has a classic look and fits well. I “m extremely low maintenance, just shower and go – which I “ve also been told by more than one person is a detriment, as I “ve been begged to “puff out” my hair, or wear some “dark red lipstick”, or something.
I keep my phone on silent, as the noise interrupts me when I “m working. I live by my calendar so if i “m expecting a call I “ll answer it then, but if its not on the calendar I don “t think to look. This is also apparently “impossible” for people to deal with.
Oh, and I “m reaaaaaaaaaally honest. I am an open book. If you ask me a question about me, I “ll answer it. I don “t talk about other people though – surprisingly, this is something that I “ve been lambasted for; not that I talk about myself, but that I keep mum about others. How messed up is that?!
I travel a lot. A lot a lot. I “m barely in one place, so unless you “re someone who loves to travel, you “re not going to see me very much.
So, these are the major pitfalls to being with me.
Originally Posted: https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-pitfalls-of-dating-you
Originally Posted On: 2016-09-18